Many times in tennis, you will be partnered with a player that does not have your philosophy, game plan or physical ability. It can be as frustrating for your partner as it can be for you, as they are going to feel the pressure to perform and play up to your game. They can easily loose confidence and not play up to their normal standards and any additional pressure from you would not help. You have probably already been in their shoes and know what it feels like. What should you do?

1. Do not COACH them.

2. Adjust your game or strategy to fit theirs.

3. Offer only positive and simple statements, such as, Nice shot! Good poach! Great get! Etc. Offer no corrections.

4. If this is someone you will be playing with often, try to set up a lesson with a reputable Pro together and start learning the same game plan. This way the burden is on the Pro for change and not on you. You will have more friends and fun like this.

5. Go out and pretend it is only a fun and social situation. Forget about the score. Think about what you could do to make the match enjoyable for your partner. This will help her to relax.

6. Remember how when you were starting out, or when you came back to the game after a long absence, you may have been the weak link in the doubles partnership. On occasion, you were stuck with someone who analyzed your play or tried to coach you after every missed shot. Don't be that person when you play with someone that plays differently from you. If you feel the need to say something, say something positive. Think about the partners you had that were kind and reassuring during your difficult transition.

Good luck on the court!